Trolling, negativity and random strangers – or, here’s an email I got…

April 21, 2017
trolling negativity hate Rosemary Mac Cabe

Here’s a little GRWM video I shot a few days back – I just really wanted to get something off my chest about trolling, and thought, why not do my makeup while I’m at it?!

Products are listed in the video description but, in case you’re MEGA nosy (like me!), I thought I’d put the text of the email below too. (Because I know that, if I heard someone got a mean email, I wouldn’t rest until I’d read it!) I’ve also added in links to a few things they’re referring to, to save you the Google. I’m good like that!

Before you go though, I would love to know: where do you stand on trolling? Do you think they should just be ignored? Called out? Is it all part and parcel of being a blogger – and should we just shut up and put up?

Trolling, in email form

I’ve been watching your Snapchat for some time now and I feel compelled to tell you how I feel.

You have this really irritating (though I’m sure you deem it cute) way of almost singing your sentences, kinda like an Aussie person.
You go up an octave at the end of every sentence and it’s extremely annoying.

You also purse your lips a lot.

You should really wear make-up as you look tired, slightly haggard, and very tomboy-ish.

Your short hair makes you look like a lesbian.

You slate Slimming World yet, as some people on the Slimming World thread on pointed out, you’re piling the weight on yourself, Rosemary.

You have no fashion sense.

You clearly think you’re famous because recently you were affronted that someone wanted a picture with James Kavanagh and not you.
You seemed put out by this.
But you’re not famous, darling. (Neither is James, by the way.)

You call yourself an influencer.
In what way?

You keep moaning about being vegetarian. If you want to eat meat, just fucking eat it. Christ almighty.
Secondly, you’re a hypocrite.
You won’t eat animals but you’ll don the latest threads from Penneys and everyone knows their clothes are made in sweatshops in Bangladesh.

Finally, I hope you realise nobody watches any Snap you post where you hashtag “ad”.
Everyone skips on by.
We don’t care.

Bye for now.

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  • Reply Linda April 21, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    Who actually has the time to do this. Not much going on in their own life methinks!

  • Reply Rhona Ryan April 21, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    First of all, I truly enjoyed how this was videoed. It was like we were getting ready for a night out and you were just having rant. I’m currently working so not actually getting ready myself but you get the gist…

    Secondly, Trolling seems like a truly sad affair. And a certain characteristic. Petty people in real life are petty people on the internet. Trolls just seem find it incredibly important/necessary to pull people off (what they reckon) are pedestals in anyway they think they can/should. They’re not impressed with either someone getting (what they feel) is undeserved recognition/attention or doing something they disagree with (and it’s usually stupid- like Kelly Clarkson being told giving her daughter Nutella is child abuse!)

    Yes, speak out if you disagree but only if you feel it’s helpful as opposed to hurtful. Slating your general appearance/style isn’t constructive. Telling poor Kelly Clarkson she is an abusive mother isn’t constructive. But they’re not here for that. They’re here for hate.

    And I for one would just not indulge them. That’s exactly what they want. Ignore them and they’ll feel pretty stupid that they’re hate went unanswered.

  • Reply Rachael April 21, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Disgusting email. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. To criticize something you can’t actually change like you voice and appearance is just nasty. Going veggie is a massive lifestyle change and the idea to change to slow fashion isn’t a bad one per say. But they are not necessarily mutually exclusive. You can have a positive influence on the world by doing either. Changing to do both at the same time is bound to set up to fail. You should only do it, number 1 cause you want to and if its achievable. Also you are only one person voicing your opinion, they probably being dicks cause it doesnt agree with yours and thryve took it as a personal insult against them. Which it isnt. Live and let live people. I doubt they are starting on their friends for the latest bargain they got in pennies. You don’t need to take hate and its borderline harassment. I never comment on things but fuck that for a load of shite. Complete knobs. I am also one for calling me it keyboard warriors. Like Katie price getting that man that trolled Harvey fired just right. Its not acceptable behaviour and you reap what you sew. Sorry for all the cliches. Much love

  • Reply Toni April 21, 2017 at 6:03 pm

    To be honest, I always click your #ad and #affiliate links because you’re so honest about it! Sometimes I’m not even fully interested but
    I click out of respect for your honesty and I’m very nosey too obvs. I signed up for the centra challenge after your little shpeels (ignore spelling) about it!
    That person is drinking poison and expecting you to die from it. He/she deserves to be called out on it. Freedom of speech does not entitle people to be nasty. Trolling would not exist if they had to face up to their actions in “real life”

    You do you Rosemary, and you do it so well ☺

  • Reply Mary April 21, 2017 at 7:34 pm

    I’m so very disgusted at the thought that some idiot wasted their precious time on Earth writing such utter bullshit. I really hope this person finds some way to cope with the anger they clearly have and somehow sometime will find joy and peace. In the meantime they are a mean, vicious, callous human. I’m glad you shared this Rosemary because never in a million years did I realise that this level of trolling happened.

  • Reply Pam April 21, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    What a cunt!

  • Reply Emmielou April 21, 2017 at 9:40 pm

    What a bitch!

  • Reply Stacey McCauley April 21, 2017 at 10:23 pm

    Apologies BUT the one that wrote that email is quite simply a wanker.

  • Reply Trisha April 21, 2017 at 10:27 pm

    Oh Rosemary, it is awful and I think you have to confront it but at the same time not giving it too much attention… I mean to be honest, I think that person has very little to do or has very little going on for them to actually put this awful email together…

  • Reply Laura Foley April 21, 2017 at 10:28 pm

    Rosemary, that person is an ASS!! I could write an extensive message detailing why, bassed on their message, they are an ass, however, unlike them I don’t have the time or the interest in spending my time listing all the reasons I think someone is an ASS! Best regards, Laura. (And clearly I think you’re gas and fab! As do most, I’m sure).

  • Reply Mary April 21, 2017 at 10:47 pm

    That email was hilarious

  • Reply Aoife April 22, 2017 at 12:36 am

    So… you’re not allowed have an opinion on slimming world, food or… well anything really?

    You’re great Rosemary & don’t let any dickhead like that make you forget it. It takes real guts to do your job & to own the tag influencer – I have massive respect for you.

  • Reply grainne April 22, 2017 at 12:38 am

    You are really thick skinned. I admire you so much and you’re always the first story I go to when I’m on snap chat. Keep doing what you’re doing

  • Reply Grace April 22, 2017 at 8:11 am

    “Unless my hair was shaped like a dick” , hahahaha that rang through my ears for the whole video. I think certain people will always have an issue with someone else living their life THEIR way . If they were truly happy in themselves nothing anyone else did would push them to write something so hateful. Wish them light and peace and dust it off. Life is too short to worry about pleasing or understanding that type of personality x

  • Reply Nicola April 22, 2017 at 8:39 am

    What a truly utterly vile excuse of a human being, to mask oneself behind a computer and utter such nasty comments about another person. Social media bullying is awful. Rosemary hold your head high, you are an amazing intelligent woman.

  • Reply Dawn Smyth April 22, 2017 at 10:07 am

    A slightly haggard lesbian
    Seriously this person has far too much time on their hands, get a hobby, get a job or just get a life! Love your snaps Rosemary…X

  • Reply Laura April 22, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    Yet this person takes time out of their day to a) watch your snaps and b) email you. Laughable!

  • Reply Ciara Gunn April 22, 2017 at 4:17 pm

    But why watch your snaps and then email you if it’s a problem to them. This shows signs of issues within their own personality to address

  • Reply Maryellen April 23, 2017 at 10:41 am

    Firstly, I am actually hurt by that email and it’s not even directed at me. Secondly, what is wrong with people that they feel the need to put people down? Can they not just keep opinions to themselves and get on with it?
    Everyone is different, everyone brings something to the world so will people like this just feck off and get themselves into a knitting class or something !!!
    You’re great!
    I don’t follow you on snapchat but that shouldn’t matter. You’re human , you’re a woman and you’re doing your thing….Ná bac na haters!!!

  • Reply ANne April 24, 2017 at 5:23 pm

    I see nothing wrong with this email. I do not know why this is called trolling. If you put yourself out there you can expect this, after all it is only someone’s opinion?

    • Reply Rosemary April 24, 2017 at 5:26 pm

      ANne, you see nothing wrong with sending someone an email detailing every single little thing you find irritating about them – REALLY?! And the “if you put out there” mentality is just victim-blaming; there is nothing that justifies this kind of nastiness tbqh.

  • Reply Sarah Jane Phelan April 25, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    It’s utterly disgusting!!! I’m all for honesty and saying it like it is, but to actually sit down and write a list of things you don’t like about someone is quite distrubing if your anything other than a 7 year old writing about your brother who ate the last biscuit (true story), to compile a list and email it to a stranger, what kind of person does this actully make you??? Seriously, I’m a mother bringing up 3 children and I genuinely worry about the kind of world my children will grow up in!!! Rosemary, you keep doing what your doing, I love reading your blogs and watching your snaps, I’ve followed and unfollowed various different people over the last year or two, but your one of the few I’ve kept and would genuinely miss if I didn’t follow you. In a social media world of buying followers and endorsing products you are a breath of fresh air with your random rants and every day banter out and about for coffees with Coilean 🙂

  • Reply enormous April 25, 2017 at 4:02 pm

    I wonder would Anne prefer if we all just stayed quiet and let the trolls run the world?

    It can actually feel like that sometimes if you let the inner critic talk too loudly. You and I have that in common, Rosemary. We don’t pay the inner critic too much heed. You are even more valiant and speak up on all manner of topics in a thoughtful and accessible way. I know many women and men who are inspired by you and what you do.

    For some reason this waste of space with access to email thinks that you need an outer critic. I think you should send all these comments to that email address as a way of silencing that outer critic, the same way positivity can be used to cancel the negativity with which an inner critic assails us.

  • Reply Becka April 25, 2017 at 8:04 pm

    Oh my gawd haha I actually burst out laughing at that email becauze its so ridiculous and weird for thrm to send an email like that but then I felt sad because it sounds like someone is going through hard time and is trying to take out their frustration on you which is totally unfair! Did you write back ?

  • Reply Annemarie May 8, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    Well aren’t they a little ray of sunshine! Bet they’d be fun at parties! Just no need to be jealous peeps! Love reading and listening to you Rosemary, you tell it like it is!! Keep on going!

  • Reply Darragh July 28, 2018 at 1:21 pm

    What an asshole, Rosemary!
    We love you. Seriously, who has the time to pen such nonsense?

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